#Own #Your #Orgasm
“Ok, this is good.......
Nope, too far left now....
I’ll just twist my hips to the right...noooo, don’t move in the opposite direction...ugh
Wait....closer...yes...ok this feels good....
I think I could get there like this....
*elapsed time 36 seconds
This is taking too long...
I don’t know if this....
Oh there...yes there...more like that...so close...shit...off again...
Maybe I just say “your turn” or do I fake it?
Whoa!!! Too fast...I’m not a salt lick.
What time is it? It’s probably been 20 min
*elapsed time 2:04
It didn’t used to take this long....
My alarm is going off in 5 hrs, maybe I’m fine, this was good enough, right?
Maybe next time.....
*elapsed time 3:12
THERE!!!! Stay right THERE! That’s it...keep going...it’s building....yes this is going to happen...
*child cries from other bedroom
FML”
For too many women, this is a familiar internal dialogue where we all too frequently assume something must be wrong while impatiently awaiting that elusive orgasm. But maybe instead of blaming our minds or bodies we need to empower ourselves to silence these conversations so the pleasure of our orgasms can be heard above our self-doubt.
Is it all in my head?
Partially. Often frustration with orgasms is rooted in a cycle that stems from our clitoral physiology and anatomy. Our ability to generate an orgasm can be delayed from conditions around nerve responsiveness, blood flow and muscle contraction. This can further lead to decreased lubrication for the sexual episode and the whole process seems to take longer. Cue the above conversation and know the brain does not forget about these encounters (even with baby brain) but rather becomes overly self-conscious the next time. Hence our cycle of self-fulfilling prophecies that are no parts pleasure or fulfillment.
Did my kids break my vagina?
At the time, it may have seemed inevitable that the beauty of our vaginas was never going to be as beautiful as the child who destroyed them. So yes, childbirth changed some of the architectural integrity down there. The muscles may have been stretched and episiotomies/tears left you with scar tissue that lacks elasticity or a decreased ability to contract along the scar line. Some of these muscles assist with clitoral erection and contractions for orgasms.
Am I too old?
Age plays a role but so does use. As the saying goes, if you don’t use it, you lose it so why would our vaginas be any different? The body ages and so does your vagina. These age-related changes are more prevalent in post-menopausal women due to down regulated hormones. But even for pre-menopausal women, there is pain, fatigue, laziness, kids, weakness, scar tissue, fear and general life, which places hurdles in front of our sexual health.
So what now?
What if there was a way we could treat some of these conditions and help reverse these cycles? We can’t defy the aging process but we can improve blood flow, nerve conduction and muscle strength locally in our clitoris and surrounding areas. Recently, a modern medical therapy known as soundwave therapy (also known as shockwave therapy; “SWT”) has been used in this area and has shown promising results.
So you want to use Soundwave Therapy where???
SWT uses energy from acoustic waves to induce cells to regenerate naturally. This helps improve blood flow, stimulates nerve growth, and ultimately makes the treated tissue more responsive to stimulation and increases the possibility for contraction.
SWT has become a popular treatment for erectile dysfunction (ED). Unlike other treatments options for ED, which are used circumstantially, SWT is unique in that it aims to restore the erectile mechanism in order to enable natural or spontaneous erections with lasting results.
Sexual enhancement is not just for men. It’s 2019, I’ll have what he’s having, thanks! The clitoris and penis are related in anatomical structure as they originated from the same developmental tissue. With the mounting evidence from ED research, we know SWT will directly impact the physiology of the clitoris, improving overall sensation, blood flow and muscle contraction which are integral for orgasms.
SWT is not limited to treating one condition. Post-partum, the perineal muscles that make up our pelvic floor can be excessively tight (hypertonia) or may have developed scar tissue from difficult births or surgical procedures. With the appropriate internal assessment, SWT can help facilitate improved muscle length in the area and scar tissue pliability. This will directly improve your ability to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles in your treatment and home exercise plan.
At any age, sexual satisfaction is essential for a women’s overall emotional and physical health.
